When TV starts launch their clothing lines, they call my client, a celebrity stylist, but when it comes to launching herself into action, she’s lost.

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"My therapist asked me to think of why I don’t take initiative in life."

It's like I'm just coasting, she said while grasping a mug to warm up.

And have you figured out the answer?

"Maybe I’m lazy. I don’t know..."

I laughed heartily, turning heads at the coffee shop.

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What about you, the business owner reading this right now?

Aren’t you a hustler, someone who worked hard to get here?

You're earning good money with your special skill.

Can you call that laziness? 😆

Or are you thinking about this the wrong way?

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My motivation story

I wasn’t always a motivated person either.

NOW you see me playing tennis every Friday and getting lots done.

Yet I was a ‘lazy’ kid.

I didn’t like exercise and preferred my couch and books.

But when I grew up I realized I wasn’t happy with my life.

I didn’t like feeling tired and down.

And I changed the only thing that truly matters:

My habits.

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I looked my client in the eye and said:

Your therapist sent you looking for the ‘why’.

In my experience everything is much simpler.

You don’t have the drive because you don't have the habit of creating it.

Simple.

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I have a 3 step process for unlocking this drive

Here it is:

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1.Borrow dopamine.

Many people have a hard time exercising so they hire a coach or attend classes.

Without knowing it themselves they borrow dopamine from others to jump start the momentum.

And you can do that with anything you've been putting off.

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2.Set better goals.

Since my clients are ambitious people they always seem to overreach.

Like deciding that a month is enough to change their biz model.

And when reality hits and it takes way longer - disappointment follows.

Nothing drains dopamine like disappointment.

By recalibrating my clients’ goal setting mechanism I save them a tonne of dopamine.

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3.Talk to yourself.

I have no proof but successful people must be talking to themselves.

For example: you decide to exercise first thing in the morning.

Then you wake up no longer feeling like it.

You need to ask your subconscious which drives 80% of your decision making, why it’s going against your wishes.

And then you have to bargain with it.

In my client’s case, we found out that her subconscious didn’t see a point in starting an exercise routine right now.

She was in the middle of an overwhelming amount of prep for an upcoming trip and her mind was saving her energy.

Talking to yourself is how you find and flip your Dopamine Switch.

And that's what unlocks the flow of motivation and focus.

Bargaining with myself works so well that I can get going on anything I’ve been putting off after just a short conversation with myself.

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Try this yourself today

Not sure how to talk to yourself, or think it's weird?

Hire me to coach you; it’s effective and socially acceptable 🤣

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Catch you later.
Dopamine Queen

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